The following is a conversation between Henrietta “Hetty” Lange (Linda Hunt) and Nell Jones (Renée Felice Smith) from the end of “Leipei” (the most recently released episode of NCIS:LA). In this conversation they're talking about how and if Nell will ever achieve the full status of an undercover agent.
Hetty: "But you don't want to get there doing it as it's been done?"
Nell: "I don't know if I can."
Hetty: "So, you'd risk not attaining the goal you hold most dear, because you feel compelled to follow your own path?"
Nell: "I'm not big or overwhelmingly athletic. I'm not an amazing sniper. To be honest with you, Hetty, going in undercover scares me. I'm never going to be like the others, and I know that. I can't do the things that they do in the way that they do them, because I have to do them my way, even if that means never making it."
Hetty: "Amazing what happened when the Van Winkles made whiskey their way."
If you persistently work hard towards a dream, and you can’t seem to get any closer to achieving it, maybe it’s time to let go. But don’t mistake this situation for another. Some dreams and goals just take a lot longer to achieve.
Memorising your multiplication facts is something that is pretty much required to pass upper-level math. It took me three years longer than my little sister to learn my multiplication facts. If it had been up to me, I would have never memorised them, but it wasn't. This is a fairly basic example, but my point is that not everyone achieves things at the same pace.
When it comes to personal dreams, chances are no one is offering you help without you asking for it.
Chances are no one's forcing you to persistent and to give your all (much like primary school vs. everything else above it). No one’s forcing you to make your goals harder to reach.
Chances are no one's forcing you to take a break or showing you what you've accomplished. Nor is anyone forcing you take the baby steps you need. It’s something you have to do on your own.
It’s not fair to decide we don't need to ask for help because the people around us don't seem to need it. It's not fair underestimate or overestimate our own capabilities simply because a friend or a sibling is able to work at that pace. “We have to do things our own way, even if it means never making it.”